Weekly Relationship Tip: Get Over A Broken Heart
Why is it so hard for us to get over our past romantic hurts?
Often, without even knowing it, we base our self-worth on whether we’re in a relationship—and what that special someone thinks of us. So when the relationship ends, or our partner says the wrong thing, it’s double the pain. Plus, if you thought this person was your soulmate, you’re dealing with rejection from someone you thought was your one-and-only. But odds are there are many possible matches out there for you, so don’t despair.
Moving On, Moving Up
- Remember that before you can say “I love you” you’ve got to first learn how to say the “I.” Take a moment to get to know yourself, and be proud of who you are. This will help you get over the hurt—and get you back on your feet fast so you can be open to meeting someone new.
- Purge the bad memories and troubling issues by getting out there and meeting new people – and not necessarily new dates, either: A new group of friends, a new activity or challenge will take your mind off of the recent past and help focus you on the exciting possibilities for the future.
Check that Baggage
If you don’t get rid of this old baggage, future romances can suffer: By hanging on to a lost love – and claiming that person was your only possible soulmate – you close the door to future happiness. Be strong and smart in your love life, just as you’d be in all your other endeavors. Remember: As we settle down later in life, we’ll date more people and have our heart broken more often. But it only has to work once, and the odds that marriage is in your future are great! Check out Marry Smart: The Intelligent Woman’s Guide to True Love for an odds-of-marriage calculator based on national Census data.
Some Final Advice
Before you can say “I love you” you’ve got to first learn how to say the “I,” so now is a great chance to take a step back and get to know who you are: Get comfortable with yourself, carry yourself with confidence and be optimistic about your goals for the future. Break that negative cycle and find love by first declaring the “I” — What am I looking for in a partner? What does success and happiness mean for me — and then finding the right match for a strong, successful you.
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